Rael Kalley

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One of my favourite quotes reminds me that “if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.” It is time for me to heed that lesson and expand my own horizons by exploring new, diverse and exciting methods of reaching out to all of you and, hopefully, many others.

We don’t give up on our dreams, hopes, goals and aspirations because we’re tired, or because it’s hard, because it’s taking too long, or because it hurts. No! We give up on our dreams, hopes goals and aspirations because we simply don’t want them badly enough, strongly enough or desperate enough.

In more than 25 years of working with hundreds of coaching clients, I have heard every imaginable reason for not doing the things they have acknowledged will lead them to achieving their goals and have committed to do. Countless clients have told me they will do “whatever it takes” to reach their goals only to hear them, several days or weeks later, explain why they didn’t or couldn’t.

It was June 1976. I was living in Cape Town, South Africa and the country was in the grip of the deadliest race riots in its history.

Experts have long stated that the only known way of changing human behavior is to change the consequences that follow said behavior.

It takes tremendous courage and inner strength to bring about lasting change. That courage and inner strength needs an ignition source and it is our willingness – often only after a lengthy and painful battle – to acknowledge a deep and hurtful truth that will serve as the spark necessary for change to begin.

We will get through this and those who come out the strongest will be the folks who teach themselves how to make the intolerable tolerable and to focus, with laser precision on things within their control while paying little attention to anything else.

A local restaurant inspires us all to help others despite our own struggles.

A conversation with a neighbor in our condo building yesterday gave me pause to think. He was leaving to go to work in a job … Read More